URGENT!! Protect your girls! | Voters

URGENT!! Protect your girls!

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moon Elton

Hi, great work so far, but there is something super important that I feel you need to do before anything else, and that is protecting the users of your site. Since being on here, every day I log in to a number of IMs in world, these range from genuine compliments, to wanting to FUCK ME IN THE ASS. I have peacefully posted my artwork on Flickr for a long time, and yes I got numerous dirty DMs, but I was not harassed in world about it. I think you are doing a fab job so far and clearly working hard with all your updates, but this to me and many others is important. Can you please please please, allow us to adjust/change our display name on here so that we can live in peace in SL.

Thanks

July 1, 2024

Delaney Jasper

As someone who has in their PF profile to leave compliments in the comment section and not to DM me (which I just edited again to be more forward), after getting and IM IW that said "Well I'm going to IM you anyway" etc, I'm getting annoyed by the unwanted IMs.
I understand all of the opinions below and if the developer wanted to implement this they would have by now.  But how about the option to PARTIALLY hide some of your IW name?  Enough that people could still spot someone they want to block on sight, but not enough that people can just jump into your IMs immediately and would have to do the work of guessing what the other letters are if they really wanted to IM you.  I understand that people could still get around that and guess the letters but I think it'd prevent some and that'd be something I'd appreciate, personally.
thank you!

BellaxNova Resident

Can we still not hide our SL name? It is annoying to get a lot of IMs anytime I post a photo, despite my Primfeed profile asking not to IM me and I do not want to Fk any random from primfeed.

Mo Elara

I cannot believe that this request is still listed...

SLDiego Resident

Letting us hide the SL user name here would fix this problem.

Those that do want/like others to know what their SL name could just not use this feature.

Rhiannon Tamerlane

Something that might be possible (I don't know the details of the interface between PrimFeed and SecondLife) - but cross-platform blocking? i.e., if you block someone in-world, they'll be blocked here on PrimFeed and vice-versa?

Jennifer Boyle

Rhiannon Tamerlane And if too many people block them, they get banned.

Rhiannon Tamerlane

Jennifer Boyle - works for me. :)

Jolie Serendipity

This is why the ability to block is so important, and why I will not actively use Primfeed without an easy to manage blocking feature.

Rhiannon Tamerlane

Jolie Serendipity - Hi, Jolie - not a member of the PrimFeed staff, but in case you hadn't seen it yet, when you look at someone's profile, next to the yellow "Follow" / grey "Following" button, there's an ellipsis (...), and the option to block someone is there.

If you mean more like being able to right-click on someone's name in the Notifications and block them from there as well when they make a crude or offensive comment, then yes, I agree that would be a VERY good idea.

hughtoussaint Resident

First of all, as a man, I would like to personally apologize to Ms. Elton on behalf of my gender. In the 14 plus years here in SL, I have repeatedly heard stories about aggressive males, impolite, rude, and outright obscene. Obviously, some people skipped the class Social Etiquette 101.
In RL, there are consequences for bad behavior. As such, these jackasses would never dare do what they do in SL. How to bring those RL consequences into SL?
First of all, and yes, I recognize this involves time and effort, the individual must be reported to Linden Labs. But the individual needs to be told they're being reported, ideally by more than one person. The harasser is going to expect the victim to protest, but if others chime in, he will hopefully get the point his behavior is unacceptable.
True story
Two years ago, in The Feed, I ran across an entry by a woman complaining about a man gaining access to her home uninvited and doing sexual things. She had posted pics of the guy in The Feed and on her Discord with a complete description of his activities, shaming him for it, and saying she reported him to Linden Labs. I didn't think the man would see this, so I IMd him with links to The Feed and Discord. I never got a reply but a month later, I looked at his profile and discovered he had cleaned everything out; it was a blank profile. I think he got the message.
I've convinced it is possible to shame somebody for their bad behavior. The light of day is usually the best remedy. Any one of you facing harassment could call upon a friend or friends (plural) to assist in a campaign of consequences. Heck, I'd be happy to help as I did above.
I know that in-world we can block, mute, or derez people which seems like an immediate and easy way of dealing with a problem. However, that doesn't correct the root problem; the harasser will go on to harass others. Bad behavior needs to be called out.
I come to SL to have fun. I hope everyone with whom I interact also has fun as their fun is important to me. We're all in this together. Let's make it a good one! :-)

ladiablesse100bc Resident

I don't mind that my system name is here for all to see.  
If someone decides to fixate on my inworld presence because they found it here, I have inworld tools to deal with them (I can block them, derender them, kick them off my land, even AR them if the offense is egregious enough).  
If someone's the type of person to 'stalk' people based on social media, then hiding your system name here isn't really going to slow them down all that much.  There's always clues. 
I WOULD like Primfeed to have some method of disciplining abusers of the service, which should include inworld stalking.  The person being stalked should have to bring proof, perhaps screenshots or logs, the same as if they were filing a harassment report with SL, though.

Evangeline Ling

My thoughts on this are NO to being anonymous.  While i find the rando stalkers to be annoying there are already in world tools to deal with them i suggest to users to learn how to use their block button.  The second Primfeed becomes anonymous it enters the fray as being as useless as Flickr is.  My understanding of this platform is it is another way for residents to connect socially.  Its not just a photo feed.  Also if someone decides to troll me using Primfeed I know exactly what POS in world is doing it.
Thank you
Evangeline Ling

Bunny Elf

Evangeline Ling the problem here is that PF can't prevent people from anonymizing themselves by using an alt that literally takes 5 minutes to create.

Divinely Enamour

I’d like to leave a reminder of some tools available to us. 
You can make your name unsearchable on SL, something you set in preferences on any viewer and it should apply across the board. They can still access your profile though through other methods such as someone linking them in-world, they go through your partner’s profile, or they open your profile clicking you in-world. This helps the flow of people finding you from Primfeed to SL.
Primfeed also has an option to not make your profile searchable. Ofc, they are likely finding you from photos you post on public, but if you are a more private person, they won’t be able to find you from SL to Primfeed directly. 
You can also make it where only friends can message you on SL, so you’d need to accept their friend request or add them yourself before their messages reach you. So even if they do find you, it won’t go through unless you accept their friend request first. This sounds like the best safeguard in your particular case. Ofc, you will lose out on being messaged by other random strangers or an acquaintance of a friend or a working relationship that hasn’t added you, but it’s a strong, bold safeguard. 
Now as for a new suggestion, what if Primfeed allowed a user’s display name to be private UNTIL you follow a person? If you follow them, your username becomes visible. Seems kind of like a fair trade off considering you are subscribing to see their content, that they should know who you are.
But I would try to stop disconnecting SL from Primfeed. It is THE secondlife social media. You might as well pretend Primfeed can be directly viewed from your in-world profile. Thinking of it like this might help digest this accountability of posting. The photos you post are of that avatar. If you want to be private on Primfeed, the same privacy should be sought on SL, like synonymous. 
That is my opinion on the matter.

moon Elton

Divinely Enamour

thats a cute idea tbh, i'll mention it

ladiablesse100bc Resident

Divinely Enamour Something else that might be implemented, is a 'mojo' system linked to an account's SL longevity (can Primfeed see rezdates?) as well as their content rating.
Off the cuff alts will show up here the same way they do inworld... as cookie-cutter stock avatars with a just-minted profile.  As an alt (yes I am someone's alt! what a concept) I know there's not always love for people going off main.  But ... and here's the kicker ... most people who run their alts inworld put as much work and time and Lindens into them as they do the main.  There's an investment made.  
The throwaway accounts - not so much. 
So if Primfeed can leverage the rez-dates and/or the sim ratings, it's a little more work and time for people to just create alts to hassle others.  Maybe even put in an 'age cap' much like some sims - if your account on SL is less than X days old, you can't use it to create a Primfeed account.  If your account is rated General or Moderate inworld, then that's a hard limit on what you can see on Primfeed.  Make the creeps work a little bit to flesh out their alts, and now it's a lot more investment and more to lose if they get banned.  Makes people behave a little more... (well all but that one guy pestering SKING and Sibilla's groups, but he's obsessed, also an outlier.)

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